Max Is Big Boy Now?

Ryan and DodgeBrining home a new baby can be a lot of change for a toddler, and there was no exception for our 2-year-old Max when he met his little brother Dodge last week.  Things started of fine with hugs and kisses but have daily descended into the expected pit of regression as Max acts out in an attempt to still be “the baby.”  Temper tantrums, fake crying when Dodge cries, insisting that Dodge’s toys are his, and everything else you’d expect from a toddler robbed of being an only child.  I feel bad for him…but at the same time I’m suddenly aware of how stinky and massive he is. Max is not a baby…he’s a big hulking kid.

The hardest part in all this is that Dodge got all tangled up during birth so we had to have a C-Section…meaning Kate can’t lift Max.  So not only is he coping with not being the baby, he has to do it without Mama picking him up.  It’s a lot for a little guy to digest.

wpid-IMG_0640.jpgI’m working from home this week but fully aware of the fact that next week we need some solutions for how Kate will be able to handle both Max and Dodge…so we started celebrating “Big Boy Moments!”  Max can already go up and down the stairs all on his own so even if it is me (who can lift him) he’s been asked to walk on his own like a “big boy.”  Diapers can be changed on the floor, he can get in and out of his car seat in Mama’s car, he can sit at the table and feed himself.  He’s pretty much fully prepared to be a big boy with the exception of one thing…the crib.

Max In Crib
Max In Crib

Knowing it was a lot to throw at Max all at once, I took the front of the crib off and threw a “Big Boy Bed Party” for Max which pretty much consisted of showing him the bed and reading books with him in bed.  Max was very excited to have a bed that was just the right size for him and loved crawling in and out of it at his leisure.  We discussed the rules of the bed and how once it was night-night time he had to stay in the bed.  He agreed.  Then it was nap time…and the true test.  Would he stay in bed?  I tucked him in, kissed him goodnight, then left to observe from the camera.  This is what I saw:

Max touches the floor to see how far it is and prove he can reach it.
Max touches the floor to see how far it is and prove he can reach it.
Now two hands on the floor...still technically in bed.
Now two hands on the floor…still technically in bed.
Next Max sends his favorite stuffed animal "Muffin" out to test the waters.
Next Max sends his favorite stuffed animal “Muffin” out to test the waters.
As Muffin has survived the floor test it is clearly safe to add more stuffed animals.
As Muffin has survived the floor test it is clearly safe to add more stuffed animals.
Next up, the orange monster tests out the floor..."Yup, all safe down here."
Next up, the orange monster tests out the floor…”Yup, all safe down here.”
MaxBed1
The orange monster and Max check under the bed to see if there are other monsters.
Max looks up at the camera to see if I'm watching
Max sends Muffin down to help then looks up at the camera to see if he’s busted.
BUSTED! Max pretends to be asleep.
BUSTED! Max pretends to be asleep.
Max goes to sleep.
After a quick re-tucking…Max goes to sleep.

Between the Muffin and Orange Monster tests there was a brief out-of-bed experience to help Muffin back to bed.  Other than that…he has stayed in bed.  On his third night he fell out and bonked his head, since then he has slept in the back corner instead draped over the edge.  In the morning he gets out of bed on his own and plays with his toys, reads books, and dresses Muffin.  Then he knocks on the door and says “I’m up!” and we come get him.  Not too shabby.

The Gates Boys
The Gates Boys

Since implementing the “Big Boy” test he has also attempted to pee in the potty twice, started doing his own dishes, and tries to help with Dodge.  When he can’t help with Dodge he plays pretend with Muffin and acts out the role of parent.  Muffin recently found his way into the bath and is currently tumbling in the dryer out of sight.  Adding a brother to the mix will be beneficial to both children as they will fight, compete, love each other, and eventually learn to work as a unified force in defeating Mommy and Daddy and getting into trouble beyond my wildest nightmares.  For now…we are all in transition.  Kate and I are learning how to be parents of two while maintaining our identities as individuals, a couple, and professionals.  Max is learning how to be a big boy, a big brother, and not the center of attention.  Dodge is learning that the dark blurry shape in front of him is Dada.  So long freedom!!!

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2 thoughts on “Max Is Big Boy Now?

  1. Wow! I’m really impressed with the “big boy’ celebrations and Max’s response to them. It has only been a few days and he seems well on his way to embracing his new role. As the mother of two great boys (now 32 and 29) I can tell you that you are truly blessed and are in for years of love and laughter. Congratulations to you both.
    Love,
    Barbara K.

  2. What a great post! I was laughing out loud at Max testing the waters from his crib. Smart boy! It sounds like you guys have been really wise about how to help Max through the transition. Good luck with all the new challenges. Brian and I will be knocking on your door for advice in the future. 🙂

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