I write to you as a man humbled and driven slightly insane from weeks without sleep and an immune system that I think may have kicked the bucket. Not even remotely exaggerating…I have had a head cold, a stomach bug, or a cough for over a month now! I have not been well a single day in 2012, the perfect storm of illness spreading has taken place in my house; Max has moved to the toddler room at day care and he has learned to high-five. Seriously…I need to feel well and I NEED SOME SLEEP!
Following the New Year we got Max on a great sleep cycle.
- 7:30 Bath
- 8:00 Bedtime
- Wakes up around 3-4 AM
- Breast-fed back to sleep
- Wakes up around 6-7 AM
That was awesome. Then he started waking up around Midnight – 1 AM. Then he added a 4-5 AM wake-up. Last week he added a 9-10 PM wake-up. This week he sleeps for an hour, wakes up, we put him back to bed, he wakes up, to bed, wakes, bed, wake, bed, wake, wake, wake, wake… It has spiraled OUT OF CONTROL!
Here is the plan from our end to execute in sequential order over the next few weeks:
- Ween from breast-feeding
- Eliminate night-time feedings
- Soothe at night by rocking only
Once that has been accomplished, move on to the next sequential goals:
- Soothe at night without picking up
- Soothe at night without touching
- Ignore cries – Max puts himself back to sleep
We have been using the Elizabeth Pantley No-Cry method till now but when we let him cry he gets so worked up he cannot catch his breath and stands in his crib screaming as loud as he can. If Kate goes to him he cries for food and fights her. If I go to him he immediately quiets and pretends to sleep…waits a few minutes…then cries again in hopes that Kate will come. He takes 1-2 naps a day and goes down for about 1-2 hours. He is in a great mood all day long and is not in pain at night when he wakes. When he wakes he is confused and exhausted…the suggestion of laying down is usually greeted with slumped over exhausted compliance…briefly. He eats all foods, has no allergies, has no major tooth coming in (to our knowledge), and is a few weeks older than 1 year. This current cycle has him waking EVERY 2 HOURS.
Please…parents out there who have gone through this…tell me what worked for you or help provide insight. I keep freaking out seeing stuff out of the corner of my eyes, I am (Kate and I both are) so sleep deprived. Tough love and let him cry? Buy him a unicorn? Trade him in for a newer model?